The 10 commandments of Remo

There’s a sinister reason why every tweet about Remo gets accompanied by that god-awful pun of a hashtag, #remontic. The film almost positions itself as a romantic bible for single men, with its protagonist, SK, doling out witticisms throughout the film. I tried to keep up.

Stage 1: Identification of the woman

1. “Single-aave vittu vechirukaanganaa…”

What it means: A woman being single is the result of men letting her be.

This robs women of choice in their relationship status. It also lays the ground for the denouncement of single women for being undesirable.

2. “Appa paechcha kettaa dhaan, husband paechchu kaepaanga.”

What it means: Women need to be handheld.

For those like the protagonist whose choice of women is curiously based on compliance levels, the film suggests a close investigation into how obedient the woman is to her father. The implication is that women are of inferior intelligence, and need guidance from men. Also note the curious usage of appa.

3. “Evanukko sutta dosai, namakku vara madhri.”

What it means:Women are objects to be consumed.

This objectifying analogy is used by the protagonist to justify his pursuit of a strange woman who’s just been engaged… a woman he hopes to floor — or should I say, flour?

Stage 2: Pursuit

4. “Erangi try panren.”

What it means: If you put enough effort into your pursuit, you can get any woman.

This serves the purpose of incapacitating the female’s refusal. If she’s refused you, it can only mean that you didn’t try hard enough.

5. “Ponnungala control panradhu kashtam; confuse pannradhu easy.”

What it means: Women are gullible individuals prone to easy manipulation.

Considering that women in our films sometimes have trouble crossing the road (Paayum Puli), you can see why it’s easy to ‘confuse’ them. The question though is, why would a man have to resort to wilful manipulation in the first place?

6. “Nerungi pona, velagi pogum. Velagi ponaa, nerungi varum.”

What it means: Uninterested women can be coveted by taking a calculated break from pursuit.

This grave wisecrack indicates that even moving on from a disinterested woman — never mind that our films don’t encourage it in the first place — is a strategy to get her.

7. “Azhagaana ponnungalaam mudichikalaam nu solladhinga; ipdi pidichikalaam nu sollunga.”

What it means: It’s a waste when a beautiful woman refuses a man.

This gem applies to only good-looking women, according to the protagonist. No wonder then that when the woman in Remo eventually asks him why he likes her, he is at a loss for deep responses. “Er, your eyes… I think.”

Stage 3: Resolution

8. “Wife kaiyaala adi vaanganum.”

What it means: After marriage, women become shrews.

Theprotagonist signals marital interest using this innovative expression. The idea — that a girlfriend is more affable than a wife — is reinforced in many comedy tracks in our films.

9. “Ponnunga full-time velaye, pasangala azha vekkardhu dhaan.”

What it means: Women are sadistic creatures who find solace in the tears of men.

Another age-old grievance of the Tamil hero, this establishes him as a pitiable, noble person whose fatal flaw is his love for this supposed evil woman. Her evilness, of course, lies in her refusal.

10. “Pasanga seiyara paadhi thappukku ponnunga dhaan kaaranam.”

What it means: Men should be absolved of their misdemeanours, as the real perpetrators are women.

The protagonist almost suggests that crooked men are helpless and deserve empathy.

As hard as it may be to believe, all of these lines are from a single film… a single super-hit film. In the timeless words of the tiny alien in MIB 2… “All is lost.”

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7 Comments Add yours

  1. Rahini David says:

    This is one awesome article.


  2. Lumos says:

    You were the one who said “Trisha Illana Nayanthara” was ok. Since it is “avowedly misogynistic”. Because it is acceptable to insult women and even justify sexual abuse as long as you are open about it. But some sterotypical jokes will mark the downfall of the society right? If you go by this logic you have to do a similar article on allmost every rom-com (not only Kollywood). I mean even in Hollywood movies the pick-up strategies are similar or even worse. Because in Hollywood movies the ultimate goal is to have sex with the woman and not to convince her to marry you.


    1. Yes, but remember that this story isn’t about how entertaining or not Remo was. It’s about promoting a school of thought through its do-gooder protagonist. Trisha Illana, in contrast, is about a loser. Sure, he is still very much a loser at the end. But no, I definitely don’t condone some of those scenes, especially the misogyny in that bar scene. But again, I request you to view that from the light of an adult-certified film. It’s a series of jokes, albeit sexist, for adults. Remo is addressed at everybody, at children in particular, who SK often says in interviews are big fans of him. Think about all this.


    2. Lumos says:

      I’m not saying that all jokes and scenes in Remo are good. Especially the scene where he wants to propose her and than learns that she is engaged. After that they are acting as if it was the girls fault. She didn’t even know he existed. That was stupid. We need to change this attitude. But after all the moral of the story is not as wrong or evil as this article suggests. He ultimatly wants to make that girl fall in love with him. He doesn’t abuse the situation or try to hurt her in any way. The moral is really that you should fight for your love. I don’t think that’s a wrong massage to anyone. They even made clear that attacks against women are not in anyway acceptable. And coming to the jokes. These are just slightly sexist jokes, which childrens will hear anyway at some point in their life. I don’t think they will take the jokes so serious, if they have been raised properly otherwise. This article also misinterprets some of the dialoges horribly. For example Nr.3. In the movies context, he just meant that he was lucky to get a oppertunity to work in her hopital. It was not meant to objectify women. I’m not saying the jokes are good but the article portrays them totally out of proportion. Considering this the U-certificate was totally justified and the movie doesn’t set a very bad exampel for childrens and youngsters.


  3. can we file a case on this movie?? or get a memo on remo?? indha padadhukku ivan stage le azhuga vera!


  4. TheWannabeWriter says:

    Reblogged this on TheWannabeWriter and commented:
    This movie is everything that shouldn’t have been. Check out why.


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